It’s not your great clients that make you a better wedding professional…it’s your difficult ones. How many times have you gone back and rewrote your contract after a challenging event with a bride? See? In these instances, you must grow from these experiences. Let these types of clients be your whet stones instead of making you their whipping boy.
We have all had one.
That special bride who took us to the brink of exhaustion and exhaustion. She might have even pushed you over. In the first part of this series, we’re going to examine how the Bridezilla got that way.
One thing you have to understand is that a Bridezilla can develop from three different avenues. Here’s the deal, if she has a serious attitude BEFORE the wedding, please hear me when I say, its only going to get worse.
- She’s self created;
- Her people made her;
- YOU made her;
When I say she’s self created, this chick is just so out of order, she doesn’t even attempt to hide her crazy. You can tell this by the way she talks to or about her family and other vendors. She is under the impression that the sun rises and sets for her and her alone.
When I say her people made her– I’m talking about her mama, her daddy, her siblings, her bridal party, etc. Bridal parties can do this because they think they know better and they cause her undue stress. Some Mothers of the Bride put the cart before the horse in the planning process and want to do things out of order. Perhaps they put too much emphasis on something that makes a bride think it’s uber important and has to be attended to this very second.
When I say you made her, somewhere along the line, you sold the dream to this girl and you didn’t show up. Either you’re not explaining your process, you’re letting communications go through the cracks, or whatever. At some point, she has felt abandoned, run amok, led astray, whatever, and she starts acting out of fear or anger.
In Part II of this series, we’ll identify red flags that you need to be on the look out for in dealing with clients.